Meta Description: If you’ve been hurt by spiritual teachers or therapists who didn’t understand your depth, this post offers insight—and a path beyond the pain of being misinterpreted.
I wonder whether any of you have had the experience I am about to describe. You have repeatedly been disappointed and hurt by spiritual teachers, therapists, or those who claimed to be healers or to have the answers to your problems.
You were suffering unimaginably, but when you shared your experience with any of the categories of people above, you found yourself attacked, blamed, discounted, misunderstood, misinterpreted, and invalidated.
You had a great need to be understood. This need was almost always frustrated. The feedback you got verbally and experientially is that you were fundamentally very different from other people.
Each such experience reinforced your suffering. You felt that there must be something terribly wrong with you. These were the people who were supposed to help you. Instead they did the opposite.
You couldn’t understand why this was happening. You didn’t trust just anyone. These were the people who were reputed to have helped many others. You wondered what was so different in your case.
Let me try to explain this phenomenon.
You really are quite different from the vast majority of people. Your experience was not some kind of mistake. You are a member of what I have started calling the hidden lineage. Members of the hidden lineage are differently put together inside from almost everyone else.
Your most salient difference is your depth. You didn’t realize that most of those spiritual teachers, therapists, or healers who were reputed to be able to help others had most likely never encountered anyone of your depth. Even though they were said to have gone through deep transformation themselves, they had never seen or touched the kind of depth you have.
Did you begin to suspect that you knew more than the therapists or teachers who were supposed to help you? You were, however, afraid to say it or even fully believe it yourself. After all, there is an unwritten, unspoken code in western societies that says we should not think too highly of ourselves and certainly should not say it.
Did you ever notice that when you would share your insights or breakthroughs, or even plans, people would contradict you and try to convince you that you were wrong?
I want you to realize that other peoples’ failure to meet you is not due to any fault on your part. It doesn’t matter if “everybody” says that there is something wrong with you. Your depth and richness simply falls outside the range of what is considered normative human interaction. When faced with you depth and presence, they minimize, deflect, sometimes attack and blame out of their own discomfort.
Your presence is catalytic. It’s about time you started owning your true power. I want you to realize how you affect others. Their negative reactions are actually happening because your energy pulls on and causes hidden aspects of them to surface into consciousness. When that starts to happen, their egoic mechanism go into overdrive to prevent it. That is why you encounter aggression and rejection.
I’m not offering a fix in this post. Just recognition. If these words speak to you, then you’ve already received what I came to give.